personal note • the women who changed me
my sister.
do you know why i call you sister?
because for centuries, we didn’t. we couldn’t.
we learned that we’re enemies; we learned to compete, compary, envy, judge.
so to say sister, is to say; i don’t believe that anymore.
i choose to believe that women are safe, kind. i choose to trust them.
and let me tell you, it wasn’t easy for me to trust women.
i grew up in the middle of the mean-girls, devil-wears-prada era.
bullying, backstabbing, gossiping to me was ‘just girl stuff’.
fast-forward to the first women’s retreat i attended.
it was shocking;
i saw women snuggle, praise eachother, cry together.
as much as i was shocked, i was hooked. it was like a soulfood i didn’t know i was craving.
like an ancient key that unlocked hidden parts of me.
and so i found myself diving into it; going to moon circles, retreats, trainings.
slowly gathering the jewels of sisterhood, and letting them transform me
the jewels of sisterhood
being in the company of strangers allows for honest self-exploration
hearing other women’s stories reminds us that we’re not alone
seeing the unique beauty of each body & being removes competition
seeing expressions we haven’t seen before (eg the ugly, wild, erotic) broadens our sense of self
experiencing the undeniable magic of women gathering rekindles faith
seeing ourselves through their eyes creates deep self-love
having a non-jugdmental space to share softens self-jugdment
sharing the vulnerable journey of womanhood strengthens us
learning to see all women as sisters makes the world feel safer
reclaiming love for women ripples into how we raise girls/children
i could go on.
but let me end with this;
for centuries, sisterhood was our nourishing soil, our safety net. it made us strong.
when it was taken, so was our safety.
now, we take it back.
me with my dear sister. picture by rachel
wisdom weavings • sacred sisterhood
“it isn't blood that makes you my sister
it's how you understand my heart
as though you carry it
in your body”― Rupi Kaur
Can you picture them? The circles of women who gathered centuries ago.
Sitting together, perhaps under the stars, around a fire, wrapped in blankets.
Sharing secrets, dreams and the pleasures and wisdom of womanhood.
Our ancestors deeply knew the magic of coming together in sacred community; this was how we found connection and meaning in life.
As Anoushka Florence writes –
“The remanence of the circle can be found in every single ancient culture; the shape that has always created space for the whole to belong.”
In a world that often feels fragmented and isolating, the longing for community, for a circle of sisters to belong to, is not just a whisper in the heart; it’s a primal call back to our roots.
As early as 800 CE, it’s documented that women all over the world were gathering during their menstruation to rest, share stories and be there for each other.
From Wiccans and Celtic Christian gatherings, to the Jewish tradition of Rosh Chodesh, Red Tent, and moon cycle gatherings, women came together to honor their bodies, share their strength, and whisper the ancient wisdom of herbs, healing, and Goddess teachings.
Together, we held.
Together, we were held.
Together, we healed.
But when the witch hunts began in 1400, it was no longer safe for women to gather or share their ancient wisdom.
Our sisterhood was stolen. Our magic, forgotten.
But now we are remembering.
Sisterhood is the antidote to the separation we feel.
It is the collective heartbeat of women around the world, a remembrance that our experiences are often shared and mirrored in each other.
Carol Saline captures this essence beautifully –
“Sisters function as safety nets in a chaotic world simply by being there for each other.”
In every shared glance, every held hand, and every embraced vulnerability, we find the safety net of our collective strength.
This strength is not just about holding each other up but about lifting each other higher.
When women gather, we remember who we are.
We hear the call of the wild, urging us to embrace our fullness, to live out loud and unapologetically.
It's in the gathering of women that we find the courage to answer that call, to say yes to our desires, our dreams, and our deepest longings.
“We don’t have to do it alone, we were never meant to”
– Brene Brown
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in all my offerings, sisterhood is fundamental.
and so it is too for my online school & sisterhood temple.
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doors open next week monday, for four days only.
after, they close again for 6 months.
this way, we get to journey together in a cozy, safe space.
inside temple you receive
shakti tantra
ancient greek goddess rituals
singing circles & voice liberation
art making & reflective writing
moon gatherings & weekly ceremonies
relaxing breathwork
what temple members say:
Since joining temple I feel that there’s always a place I can go to. A place that makes me feel safe and seen. It feels so good when women come together to celebrate and empower each other instead of competing.
- Ellis, member since september 2022
I have been inspired by my fellow sisters to trust my inner knowings and find joy and live fully.
- Sara, member since september 2023
The women in temple became soul family, we share arts, laughter and sadness, thoughts and our deepest wishes.
- Stefanie, member since september 2022
wishing you a beautiful week my sister
xxx
jess & temple team